When teaching teenagers, it is common to face apathy, un-certainty, low or elevated self-esteem, a sense of isolation or loneliness, frustration and sometimes aggression. Sounds heavy on top of the curriculum workload? After all, most teachers are not experts in psychology.
Maintaining control in a classroom filled with teenagers is not a task to be undertaken lightly and requires real understanding and empathy towards what they are feeling and experiencing, as well as solid teaching tools to help you approach them effectively.
Expectations
Teenagers nowadays often look, talk and act like adults, which can lead us to treat them as equals. On the other hand, we know that they are not and simultaneously expect them to respect our adult authority. Ironically, teenagers are developmentally neither comparable to children nor adults. Setting realistic expectations of your students, coupled with empathy towards the type of things they are going though is essential to being able to build a relationship with them and start off on the right foot. Teens are going through an important transition period in moving from childhood to adulthood and during the teenage years have to deal with establishing an identity, increasing autonomy and independence, sexuality and intimacy issues and combating others expectations of their own levels of achievement.
Emotional Intelligence
In his book on Social Intelligence, Daniel Goleman mentions several aspects of emotional intelligence that are vital for teenagers to understand and master during adolescence. He highlights identifying and understanding internal emotions, empathising with others and identifying their emotional output and managing relationships effectively, as essential skills to be learned. Emotional intelligence, which should be measured separately from intellectual capacity and cognitive ability, can be heightened through a conscious process of teaching tools, skills and strategies for everyday life. We need to educate our teenagers in how to possess effective levels of emotional intelligence, which will in turn allow them to deal with these issues.
Teaching Social Skills
We need to teach our teens how to socialise and work effectively as part of a group, how to be respectful, how to create rapport with others and how to develop their interpersonal and intrapersonal skills in general. We must take time out of our busy schedules to create and include classroom activities that have the sole purpose of encouraging and teaching the use of tact, empathy, appropriate communication skills and techniques tor handling confrontation. We may need to mediate social interaction between them at times, although involving them in that evaluation and mediation process will help them to understand how to approach a similar situation a little differently in the future.
Developing Effective levels of Emotional Intelligence
Teens need to learn how they can succeed in obtaining emotional independence, recognise and understand emotions and control their moods and frustrations. Our role in their emotional development is essential. We need to teach teenagers how to achieve their goals and motivate them when they succeed. However, it is just as important to teach them that “failure” is a normal part of life and guide them to develop persistence in the face of challenge and adversity. We must be willing to take the time to show them how to recognise and manage their emotions in order to help them reach their potential and achieve success.
Maintaining control in a classroom filled with teenagers is not a task to be undertaken lightly and requires real understanding and empathy towards what they are feeling and experiencing, as well as solid teaching tools to help you approach them effectively.
Expectations
Teenagers nowadays often look, talk and act like adults, which can lead us to treat them as equals. On the other hand, we know that they are not and simultaneously expect them to respect our adult authority. Ironically, teenagers are developmentally neither comparable to children nor adults. Setting realistic expectations of your students, coupled with empathy towards the type of things they are going though is essential to being able to build a relationship with them and start off on the right foot. Teens are going through an important transition period in moving from childhood to adulthood and during the teenage years have to deal with establishing an identity, increasing autonomy and independence, sexuality and intimacy issues and combating others expectations of their own levels of achievement.
Emotional Intelligence
In his book on Social Intelligence, Daniel Goleman mentions several aspects of emotional intelligence that are vital for teenagers to understand and master during adolescence. He highlights identifying and understanding internal emotions, empathising with others and identifying their emotional output and managing relationships effectively, as essential skills to be learned. Emotional intelligence, which should be measured separately from intellectual capacity and cognitive ability, can be heightened through a conscious process of teaching tools, skills and strategies for everyday life. We need to educate our teenagers in how to possess effective levels of emotional intelligence, which will in turn allow them to deal with these issues.
Teaching Social Skills
We need to teach our teens how to socialise and work effectively as part of a group, how to be respectful, how to create rapport with others and how to develop their interpersonal and intrapersonal skills in general. We must take time out of our busy schedules to create and include classroom activities that have the sole purpose of encouraging and teaching the use of tact, empathy, appropriate communication skills and techniques tor handling confrontation. We may need to mediate social interaction between them at times, although involving them in that evaluation and mediation process will help them to understand how to approach a similar situation a little differently in the future.
Developing Effective levels of Emotional Intelligence
Teens need to learn how they can succeed in obtaining emotional independence, recognise and understand emotions and control their moods and frustrations. Our role in their emotional development is essential. We need to teach teenagers how to achieve their goals and motivate them when they succeed. However, it is just as important to teach them that “failure” is a normal part of life and guide them to develop persistence in the face of challenge and adversity. We must be willing to take the time to show them how to recognise and manage their emotions in order to help them reach their potential and achieve success.
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